Thursday, January 30, 2014
At this party there were many people there with large families. Many of the mothers in attendance were expecting their third, fourth, or fifth child. To say that I already felt out of place would be a gross understatement. I was sitting watching my son play, when a lady, who I had never met before, decided to come over and ask me THE QUESTION. This older woman looked at me and said "Is he your only child?" My reply was, "yes." Then she asked me how long I had been married, to which I replied 6 years. I could already sense where she was about to head, and was praying that I wouldn't have to answer this time. Alas, it blurted out..."You have been married 6 years and you only have ONE child? What took you so long? My daughter has been married for 5 years and she is about to have her 3rd baby!"As the question stabbed to my core, my husband thankfully overheard and came to my rescue. He politely responded that for 4 of those 6 years we were struggling financially, that he was finishing his degree, and that I had been working. He also added, "we wanted to make sure that my wife could stay at home with our son. That's what is important to her, and that's what was important to me. He is our blessing, he wasn't easy to come by, and we are proud to call him our son." The lady got the message and walked away, but the rudeness of her question still rang in my ears.
As I drove home that night I pondered her question and why I have heard it so many times.The sheer nosiness made me irritated. I wondered why she felt the need to shout about her own daughter's fertility to make another feel less than? Why do many women feel the need to hold a number over other women's heads? Her question didn't take into account God's plan, all she seemed concerned about was man's finite plan. Many of these "ladies" who ask this question forget that the road paved to being a mother is not always smooth. I began to wonder how many other women she has asked this question, who have experienced great grief in trying to have a child - maybe they have problems with infertility, maybe they have had miscarriages along the way - and yet this woman railroads them with a question that is none of her business. I am in no way saying that women shouldn't talk about childbirth, how many kids they wish to have, the struggles of being a mom, or the joys of parenthood; what I am saying is don't push God's plan for YOU onto another believer. Never make a sister in Christ feel ashamed of following God's whispers and leadings. To do so is selfish, arrogant, and un-edifying to a brethren. His plan is NOT our plans!
In God's eyes I am right where he wants me to be. I have peace in knowing that the wait for a child was worth it. I know that my son is a gift, as all children are. I waited patiently for my gift and I am enjoying it - every minute. I want us all to remember that children are not a way to elevate our spiritual status, personally nothing can elevate spiritual status - we have all fallen short and it is only God's grace that elevates us to be called His Children. Your worth is not wrapped up in a number. I believe that my worth is wrapped up in pursuing the dream that God gave my heart years ago - the desire to be a mom. God answers prayers...sometimes not in our time frame or exactly how we "wanted" it...but He does answer. So if you ever feel inclined to ask this question, step back a minute, ponder what God's plans and pathways may be for your sister in Christ...and remember not all paths are paved.
"For I know the plans I have for you...plans not to hurt or to harm you, but to give you hope and a future...." Jeremiah 29:11
Writer's Window Thursday - Ross Homer
Tiffany - Will you please tell us what is the title of your book ?
Ross - Defeated in war by Teus, Lord of Moraduhnim Castle, the beautiful young queen of Aba Nam is captured and tortured for two years. Teus stripped Viktoria Ceridwyn Coer Kilarra of her health, realm and magical abilities in the war that saw black, white and gray magics used by both. Almost dead from her continuing defiance, she manages to escape. Escaping, though, has its own set of problems. Like falling in front of an oncoming automobile. This one is driven by Taagen Davis, novelist and avid bicyclist. He barely stops in time. Recovering from the injuries incurred in the war, the young queen tells Taagen a tale of a legendary object that must be protected at all costs. When she’s strong enough, she shows him a small sample of her once powerful magic. Taagen takes time to think about what she’s told him and decides her story is reasonable. Of course, his falling in love with her didn’t enter the decision at all. He decides to join this beautiful young woman on her quest. Their destination is the secret location of the Orb of the Worlds. Arriving on Aba Nam through a portal called a Gateway, Taagen discovers it to be nothing like Earth. For starters they have to fight a band of Teus’ mercenaries within minutes of arriving. With swords, no less! Driven to conquest by forces unknown to him, Lord Teus has not been resting on his victory. He too is striving to find the Orb. Nothing will stand in his way; neither stronger magic, nor the young queen.
Tiffany - Many authors have a specific reason for writing a story. Why did you write this particular story?
Tiffany -What was the point you realized that being an author was no longer a dream but a reality?
Tiffany - What warning(s) would you give them?
Tiffany - What do you enjoy the most about the writing process?
Tiffany - There are so many authors I would love to meet ( past and present). If you could meet one of your favorite authors, who would it be and why?
Tiffany - Who inspires you?
Thank you Ross! It was fun to learn about your creative process and your current work. Best of luck as you pursue your dream!
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Thursday, January 23, 2014
Kyra: After a dragon attacks their village, two siblings must strike out across the frozen countryside to find safety. But what they find is much more than they bargained for.
Tiffany:Why did you write this particular story?
Tiffany: I often model characters or situations after true events.Are there any characters in your books that are modeled from people in your daily life?
Tiffany: Tell me Kyra, how do you come up with your story lines?
Kyra: When my first novel, Flight Of Dragons, was accepted for publication. I was so excited, I laughed, I cried, I jumped around. There's no feeling like having your dream come true. It was a powerful moment.
Tiffany: Writing is such a personal experience and advice is sometimes lacking for a young writer.What advice would you give to aspiring writers?
Tiffany: What do you enjoy the most about the writing process?
Kyra:I love everything about writing. Well, okay, almost everything. Editing can get a little tedious. But for the most it's an awesome job. What could be more fun than getting to spend all day talking to your imaginary friends and getting paid for it?
Kyra: Do your research. If you're going to submit to a traditional publisher, make sure you talk to other writers who've worked with them. Also, always have somebody else read your book whether you're submitting it to a publisher or self-publishing. Every book needs a fresh set of eyes.
Tiffany: Like I said before, the publishing world can be very confusing, and there are so many new ways to be published now.How did you go about getting your book published?
Tiffany: Ok, enough with the "work" questions! Let's get creative and personal!If you were given one day to live, what would you do that day?
Tiffany:If you could meet one of your favorite authors, who would it be and why?
Tiffany: So many authors have muses or people that inspire them.Who inspires you?
Kyra: Don't spend so much time stressing out about whether or not you'll ever be a 'real writer'. If you write you're a writer, period. Someday you'll get exactly where you want to go. Try to enjoy the journey a little more instead of obsessing about the destination.
Tiffany: Writer's always have lots of irons in the fire. Can you tell us, what’s next for you?
Kyra:Lots of writing. I'm working on five projects right now, so I'm very busy. I have several books coming out this year, some traditionally published and some self published. I've recently gotten a small bookstore to take some of my paperbacks and that's really cool. It's amazing to see your books on the shelf of an actual bookstore. And I'm hoping to get a table at my very first convention this year. I have my fingers crossed on that one. It's going to be a good year.
Best of Luck Kyra! Thank you for letting your imaginative process be showcased today.
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Tuesday, January 21, 2014
|Wish these grumpy Gus' looked this cute when squalling.|
First, let me say that whoever lays out grocery stores should be hung by their toenails. The aisles are too narrow, food scales hang in the worst places, stockers blindly re-route traffic every 5 minutes, and at any given time a food avalanche can block your way.Grocery store traffic jams are the worst, and cause the scenario I was involved in today. Today I was apart of what I would like to call cart jousting. Let me lay the scene out for you. I am scanning the produce aisle for pears, walking slowly to avoid banging my head on the scales i mentioned prior. I see ahead of me another SAHM with one of those huge carts that looks like a car. We nod at each other because the aisle isn't big enough for the both of us. I kindly stop, pull as close as I can to the apples, noticing that a dagum scale is now in my way, and let her pass. She stops a few feet to my left and begins bagging some grapes. Now, as this little maneuver is happening, a very large, scowling man turns into our lane of traffic. I can see from the look on his face that he is a barnacle. I knew I needed to move quickly in order to clear a hole for him to go through, but this man apparently decided that patience was not a virtue at that moment. Before I could do anything, he rared his cart back, and slammed it into the other SAHM's cart, launching it into a bin of corn ( thankfully no children were sitting in it at the time). I heard her mumble quickly..."Oh I am sorry" as he growled past her in the opening that he rudely created. After the dragon flew away, I caught the eye of the other SAHM; both of us sighed loudly and shook our heads. Deep down I know one of us wished we could have beaned him with a cantaloupe.
I know that one day I will witness a SAHM (hopefully it won't be me) losing it on a gremlin like the one above. I actually look forward to it, because it is high time that rude people be made aware of the code! You know that old saying "do unto others..." But for now, I am left wondering who let all these grumps out...WHO..WHO?
Monday, January 20, 2014
Ever wonder what goes on inside a writer's head? Wonder how they come up with all the stuff that is contained in their books? Have you thought about becoming a published author? These are all questions that at some point we book lovers and writers have asked ourselves. The creative process has always fascinated me and I have recently asked a few authors if they would share some insight on their own personal process. These interviews will be posted as "Writer's Window" each Thursday; and will host authors from many different genres. The first one will be this Thursday! I can hardly wait!
Monday, January 13, 2014
I am no longer a teen, and yet I am still visited by the pimple fairy. Oh sure, they aren't as bad as they were in high school, but they still faithfully remind me that they have no intention of going away. I hate to be the harbinger of doom to all of teendom, but here is the cold hard truth - pimples will always be apart of your life. Yup, they will. They may not be as angry in adult life, cause well things have mellowed out a bit; but they still love to make appearances at the worst of times. Job interviews, dates, weddings, etc. The plus side is most adults aren't really paying attention to
the Pike's Peak that has set up temporary residence on your chin. WE have bigger fish to fry -WRINKLES!
I have discovered that wrinkles, on the scale of OMG I am old & what the heck is going on with my face, far outweigh the gravity of a pimple. A pimple is just renting the space on your face, but a wrinkle becomes a permanent buyer. The combination of the two, which occurs more often than one would think, can make one feel like they are in a never ending tug of war between youth and older age. This phenomena can make one want to put a bag on their head and never be seen in society again. Yet, I wonder if these skin flaws are here to teach us something bigger about life.
Beauty has nothing to do with perfection, it is how we handle those imperfections that make us beautiful. Life is far from perfect, heck let's be honest sometimes life is full of pimples and wrinkles, they pop up when we least desire to see them. I have to remember that life's imperfections are not something to shake my fists at, they aren't here to punish me, they are here to help me grow. Imperfections helped me become who I am today.
So I guess those friends weren't lying after all. There are some things you do "Grow" out of.
Tuck this thought into your heart when life's imperfections seem to be assaulting you and you feel far from beautiful, remember that someday you'll grow out of it.